Help to get improvements in areas that predict future success Buying a coffee for an old friend. Helping your child up after they’ve fallen in the playground. Making time to call your parents and let them know you’re alright. Passing some change to the homeless man. Volunteering for a good [...]
Stump Your Parents Amateur 1.Which continent has the most dinosaurs fossils? a. Antarctica b. North America c. Africa d. Asia 2.Stegosaurus was a plant-eater, but it was no wimp. How did Stegasaurus protect itself from enemies? a. Sat on them b. Stomped on them c. Bit them d. Smacked them [...]
擊倒挫折! 當孩子決定放棄某件事情時，都會有自己的原因： A孩子會說：「我覺得很無聊。」 B孩子則說：「這只是浪費時間。」 也有像C孩子賭氣：「我就是不會，放棄比較快。」 當然也跟D孩子一樣耍賴：「不會又不會怎麼樣。」 原因各不相同，但其實都是孩子內心深處，懼怕挫折的表現。 挫折是什麼？為什麼會令人望之卻步？按心理學名詞的釋義，當有目的的行為受到阻礙，導致情緒上的焦慮不安，就稱之為挫折（frustration）。 挫折其實在生活中無處不在，想削鉛筆時，削鉛筆機壞掉可以是挫折；早上睡過頭、上學遲到，都可以是挫折。 但讓孩子真正絕望的不是挫折所帶來的痛苦，而是感受到無法掌控痛苦的無助感。 削鉛筆機壞掉，孩子可以改用原子筆，甚至乾脆跟同學借；但數學考試考不好，即使不斷練習，下次結果「可能」還是差強人意。 對於眼前的挑戰，孩子沒有能力去找尋克服的方法，剩下來的選項，可能只有「放棄」兩個字。 孩子長期習得無助感（learnedhelpness），讓孩子習慣悲觀地看待世界，認為一切挫折的都是「自己沒有用。」或「我太笨了。」這種永久性、無法改變的解釋，也讓放棄顯得合理、簡單。孩子要成長，必須習得樂觀（learnedoptimism）：儘管受挫，但仍會想盡辦法解除痛苦。 上一期Evocation曾介紹的成長型思維（growth mindset）和固定型思維（fixedmindset），前者相信自己能改變；後者認為智力無從改變。 擁有成長思維的孩子，面對逆境時會習慣找出導致失敗的暫時性、特定的原因，而非「只看結果」。因此，要幫助孩子去「習得樂觀」，請先幫助他們相信自己，讚美他們的努力，而非表揚天分。 當然，除了透過語言強化信念外，我們是需要有效的方式來挑戰挫折。 過去，我們習慣設定需要經年累月的目標，而忽視當下能完成的中、低層目標。就好像學美語：學習Phonics是底層目標，之所以重要是因為你想要達成會說美語的中層目標。為什麼想要會說美語？因為它是與世界接軌的必備能力。 有時挫折，只是我們無法一蹴可幾罷了。重新檢視自己的目標，聚焦當下可以完成的目標，享受每一步克服難關的成就；你不只赫然發現熱情所在，更驚訝挑戰挫折原來這麼簡單。 最後，最重要的是「榜樣」的力量。 父母要能先尊重孩子自主權的同時，又能積極參與孩子的教育，與孩子一起尋找克服挫折的方法，並相信自己和孩子能一起達成更高的目標。 作家兼社會運動人士JameBaldwin就曾說：「孩子向來不擅長好好聽大人說話，但是模仿大人倒是很有一套。」 所以，您是如何面對挫折的呢？ 【樂在學習，享受成就，更多親子學習相關訊息歡迎加入】 艾力美語～英語翻轉教育 🏫 艾力美語～校園點滴
Triassic 252~201 MYA The Triassic period was the hottest time in dinosaurs’ history. The dry, desert landscape was bare, except for the plants growing by riverbanks. Small dinosaurs and tiny mammals began to appear on the Earth for the first time. During this time, the supercontinent of Pangaea began to [...]
Writer A person who writes books or articles to be published. What do they do? An author is someone who writes long stories. A fiction book can have between 80,000 to 200,000 words, so they need to be able to plan and execute his work. This requires dedication and patience. [...]
Slavery: An Introduction Children are supposed to be happy. Children are supposed to have fun and education is supposed to be a time where you can make errors. But in many places, that isn’t the case. Sometimes, children grow up denied of education, denied of love. Those children are slaves. [...]
We give students reason and direction to work hard, helping them understand long-term goals and to stay determined through tough tasks. In building these skills, the students at Alexander Academy learn to have grit, a proven essential characteristic for lifelong success. Working Hard: Inborn talent can be good, it can [...]
Follow your passion and never give up To have passion and perseverance in something that interests you; this is what it means to have grit. The theory behind the use of “grit” in day to day life and in your endeavors comes from Angela Duckworth’s book grit: The Power of [...]
